r/AskReddit – What are the signs that someone is secretly unhappy?


User Answer
/u/goobrooo 5945 Upvotes
For me, when I’m ‘secretly unhappy’, something I tend to do is dive pretty hard into TV shows and movies and sometimes video games. Specifically stuff that I’ve already seen/played, because there is some sense of security/comfort in indulging in stuff I feel like I know already.
/u/Hopeful_Swine 9674 Upvotes
Being tired all the time. Just generally not really wanting to participate in things.
/u/0xD153A53 9154 Upvotes
Something I speak of from experience: the state of the home.
I’ll leave dishes in the sink longer than I probably should because it doesn’t matter. I won’t make my bed because it doesn’t matter. I won’t vacuum the floor for a month because it doesn’t matter. I’ll let laundry slide a few extra days because it doesn’t matter. I’ll only shave my head and face once a week, maybe, because it doesn’t matter. I won’t replace my broken bed frame and box spring because it doesn’t matter. I’ll survive on peanut butter and banana sandwiches instead of cooking a chicken because it doesn’t matter.
I call this “depressive nihilism” and it’s fucking infectious.
The “upside” is that I don’t invite people over to my house because I don’t want them to see the state of affairs and be concerned.
Edit: Wow. This kinda blew up…I’m glad I’m not alone in this. I’d like others that feel this way to know they’re not alone either.
/u/Breakfast880 5754 Upvotes
If someone overreacts to something small and blows it way out of proportion, it’s usually a sign that they are very unhappy about something else but either don’t know it or are incapable of fixing it.
/u/almutairijamal2 3282 Upvotes
Sleeping all day. Also using sleep to “treat” problems like boredom, stress, headaches, or any number of minor physical symptoms that pop up. I legit have a headache and sleep does make me feel better, but I’m pretty sure that the basic cause of both is depression.
Awake all night. No matter how little I sleep during the day, I can’t fall asleep at night. I get agitated from trying. Yes I’ve tried meditation, yes it does help some… until I either overthink and have a panic attack, or fall asleep and wake up gasping and crying from awful nightmares. Day sleep does neither of those things.
Forgetfulness… uh, yeah…
Not eating/overeating. I am not hungry during the day, but I get the munchies st night. I can control my night time urges usually, but then I’m still not hungry during the day.
/u/carolruth569 2129 Upvotes
I think this one is super easy to overlook so I’m glad you mentioned it. I had a friend that had a hard time with his long term unemployment (nearly 3 years). The more he struggled, the angrier he acted. Not toward his loved ones either, but dumb stuff, like the burger he ordered didn’t have the extra cheese he asked for. The more he lashed out, the more his friends pulled away. He quit a lifelong hobby (music can get expensive) and none of those friends stayed in touch either. The gradual loss of his support system created a cycle.
The near-constant inconsolable anger was hard for me to be around, but I had a hunch that he wasn’t an asshole, just very depressed and in need of compassion. But I had my own rough patch a few years prior, and I was snapping a lot at petty stuff too. Seemed like everyone thought I was just a huge bitch and got tired of waiting for me to be fun again.
TL;DR: Angry people aren’t fun, but if a loved one is lashing out a lot, plus becoming withdrawn, losing interest in hobbies or having sleep problems, consider staying in touch and visit/call once in a while.
/u/AatroxIsBae 2490 Upvotes
I think mine manifests most in trying to make people laugh. Especially if you’re stoic or hard to read. Laughing = happy, so I feel more at ease.
Also if they’re worrying about stepping on toes or being annoying. I know my friends love me but even now I have that voice that just repeats “Annoying, no one loves you”
/u/ladyliayda 5668 Upvotes
self deprecating humor, but instead its a little over the top
/u/TTyrone1099 3368 Upvotes
Their one and only reaction to basically anything is smiling or laughing
/u/aznate8 699 Upvotes
Usually people are polite enough not to scream and whine but if more extroverted people tend to quiet down when unhappy. When asked if they approve of what is going on they tend to agree just so that they arent a bother.
/u/BoofahKingWho 1698 Upvotes
They neglect their appearance, hygiene and housekeeping while putting on a comic, smiley persona; they’re trying to kid themselves and everyone else.
/u/mrsuns10 1426 Upvotes
I bet everybody here is fake happy too
/u/iamnewlegend47 890 Upvotes
When you’re reading through this and like 90% of the shit applies to you..
/u/Anicha1 1117 Upvotes
Anyone whose life consists of work, eat , sleep and repeat. It’s called survival not living!
/u/this_is_pie 1056 Upvotes
If someone acts super friendly but never actually talks about anything serious, their feelings, or really about themselves at all. I presume its because they don’t want others to know how unhappy they are.
edit: I’m referring to people who are friends and have know each other for a long time. Unhappy people may not ever talk about their true thoughts, only surface level stuff
/u/SleeplessShitposter 743 Upvotes
Always wanting to talk about things like their childhood, etc.
Doesn’t mean they’re unhappy in general, it just means they don’t like how the world is right now, or something’s been missing.
/u/alkhubaizi22 1733 Upvotes
One of the big problems with depression is that people use use the word as a catch-all term for everything from grief to teenage sulkiness. This is why so many idiots tell depression sufferers they need to smile more, when true depression has nothing to do with this.
/u/gnew88 622 Upvotes
I feel like relentless gaming is a big sign. A huge escape from reality, finding comfort in an alternate world.
/u/alanezialia 634 Upvotes
When they’re emotionally a blank slate. One of the things about Depression is that it doesn’t (always) leave you sad, as much as you just lock down all your emotions for “later”.
Sort of the survival instinct – you lock it down and keep on marching. But … sometimes you forget to, or otherwise can’t ‘unlock’, and you just end up an emotional void for a while.
Edit: rather than believe some guy on the internet, here’s the NHS link
Quote: (symptoms)
having no motivation or interest in things
finding it difficult to make decisions
not getting any enjoyment out of life
If this applies to you, then it’s not a disaster. Most people do this from time to time. If it has been ongoing, then it may be worth speaking to a healthcare professional.

Sentiment Analysis of Tripadvisor user reviews for the Singapore Zoo

29th April 2018: Please note that phantomjs is no longer supported by selenium. Switch over to chrome headless.

Welp, this is how I spent my weekend.
Made a python script to scrape reviews from Tripadvisor and process the raw text. And another script to do a sentiment analysis and word frequency count. I used the CS50 Sentiments project as a starting point. Scraping was done with a combination of beautiful soup and selenium. The analysis was done using nltk.


Continue reading “Sentiment Analysis of Tripadvisor user reviews for the Singapore Zoo”

Worst eating places in Singapore according to Reddit.

What’re your personal dining-out nadirs? Maybe we can crowdsource a list of places to stay the fuck away from.

For me:

The Ramen House @ Selegie – truly the mediocre-st ramen I’ve ever had locally. Flaccid noodles, blander soup than Maggi, straggly chashu…

True Blue @ Peranakan Museum – horrendously, horrendously overpriced basic-bitch Peranakan food

Yeo Keng Nam @ Upp Serangoon – taxi-driver disputes aside, hawker centres have better chicken rice than this

https://www.reddit.com//r/singapore/comments/786f6m/the_terrible_singaporean_restaurants_thread/ Continue reading “Worst eating places in Singapore according to Reddit.”

Is BMI a good measure of health?

Recently, my government has increased it’s focus on its citizens adopting a healthy lifestyle. Today, I decided to look into one metric that is commonly used to determine a population’s health.

What is BMI?

Body Mass Index (BMI) is a person’s weight in kilograms divided by the square of height in meters. A high BMI can be an indicator of high body fatness. BMI can be used to screen for weight categories that may lead to health problems but it is not diagnostic of the body fatness or health of an individual.

What is it used for?

BMI is mainly used to assess weight status of a population. It is a simple screening tool to estimate a person’s body fat, but should be used in conjunction with other body composition tests before a diagnosis is to be made. This is because BMI is unable to discern between body fat percentage and lean mass.

How accurate is it?

This is a tricky question to answer. It’s accuracy differs between populations.

For example, in the USA and Singapore, the use of BMI actually under-diagnoses the prevalence of obesity.

In this study, it was observed that the use of BMI underdiagnosed obesity by 30%!
Accuracy of Body Mass Index to Diagnose Obesity In the US Adult Population

BMI-defined obesity (≥ 30 kg/m2) was present in 21% of men and 31% of women, while BF %-defined obesity was present in 50% and 62%, respectively.

Our findings also suggest that the magnitude of the obesity epidemic may be greatly underestimated by the use of BMI as the marker of obesity 35. In our results, BMI showed an unacceptable low sensitivity for detecting body fatness, with more than half of obese subjects (by body fat measurement) being labeled as normal or overweight by BMI. The true prevalence of obesity might be strikingly higher than that estimated by BMI.

In Singapore, it was observed that the accuracy of BMI differs between ethnic groups.
The paradox of low body mass index and high body fat percentage among Chinese, Malays and Indians in Singapore

RESULTS: Compared with body fat percentage (BF%) obtained using the reference method, BF% for the Singaporean Chinese, Malays and Indians were under-predicted by BMI, sex and age when an equation developed in a Caucasian population was used. The mean prediction error ranged from 2.7% to 5.6% body fat. The BMI/BF% relationship was also different among the three Singaporean groups, with Indians having the highest BF% and Chinese the lowest for the same BMI. These differences could be ascribed to differences in body build. It was also found that for the same amount of body fat as Caucasians who have a body mass index (BMI) of 30 kg/m2 (cut-off for obesity as defined by WHO), the BMI cut-off points for obesity would have to be about 27 kg/m2 for Chinese and Malays and 26 kg/m2 for Indians.

If obesity is defined as excess body fat rather than excess weight, the obesity cut-off point for Singaporeans should be 27 kg/m2 instead of 30 kg/m2. The lowering of the cut-off point for obesity would more than double the prevalence figures in Singapore.

In addition, the study authors also noted that the use of BMI underdiagnosed the prevalence of obesity in Singapore by at least 10%.

Generally, if the cut-off point for obesity in Singapore were lowered to 27 kg/m2, this would have immense impact on the prevalence of obesity among the adult Singapore population. Compared to a BMI cut-off point of 30 kg/m2 the prevalence would increase in females from 6.5% to 15.4% and in males from 5.2% to 17.3%.

Interestingly, it is the opposite for Korea. The use of BMI actually over-diagnosed obesity.

Diagnostic Performance of Body Mass Index Using the Western Pacific Regional Office of World Health Organization Reference Standards for Body Fat Percentage

In the present study, obesity was identified in 38.7% of men and 28.1% of women using body mass index (≥25 kg/m2) and in 25.2% of men and 31.1% of women using body fat percentage. A body mass index cut-off ≥25 kg/m2 had high specificity (89%, men; 84%, women) but poor sensitivity (56%, men; 72%, women).

On the basis of BF%, 25.2% of men and 31.1% of women were classified as obese in the present study compared to 50% of men and 62% of women in American populations (10). Thus, BF% better reflects the current status than population-specific cut-off points for BMI for international comparisons of the prevalence of obesity. The prevalence of BF%-defined obesity was higher in women than in men in Korea, which suggests that Korean women have less lean mass than do Korean men.

What is the significance of BMI?

As mentioned earlier it is mainly used a health indicator of a population but not an individual.

High and low BMI have been correlated with increased mortality rates. However, the increased risk of mortality observed in underweight people could at least partly be caused by residual confounding from prediagnostic disease. i.e. It’s a reverse causation, people are underweight due to their pre-existing conditions (eg. cancer).

An increase in BMI has been correlated with an increased risk for a myriad of diseases such as heart disease and diabetes.

Is “Less Sugar” Always Better?

Healthier food costs more because slow demand leads to inadequate economies of scale: Chee Hong Tat

During a parliament session Senior Minister of State (SMS) for Health Chee Hong Tat attributed the increased cost of “healthier” food options to lack of demand.

“During the initial phase when the healthier products are being introduced, they will have to go through this phase where consumers are getting used to it and the demand is not quite picking up,” he said.

“So when you produce it and there’s inadequate economies of scale, the merchant finds it difficult to price it at a very competitive level.”

Mr Chee was responding to Member of Parliament for Bishan-Toa Payoh GRC Chong Kee Hiong, who asked why healthier foods tend to be more expensive than less healthy options.

As for his question on the price disparity, Mr Chong clarified that he was referring to two variations of the same brand of kaya. The low sugar option costs S$1 more, he said.

Out of interest, I went to take a look at the two types of kaya from Fairprice private label:
Fairprice Nonya Kaya – Less Sugar 400G – $3.95
FairPrice Nonya Kaya 410G – $2.65

Below is a comparison table of the macro-nutrients.

Not only does the less sugar version contain more calories, it also contains MORE carbohydrates and LESS protein.

To reduce the sugar, they added maltitol, a cheap sugar alcohol that has half the calories of sugar per gram and actually cost less than sugar for the same unit of sweetness
Source: http://www.sugar-and-sweetener-guide.com/maltitol.html

So is the “healthier” option always healthier?

Best to be a smart consumer and always remember to always check the nutrition label! Caveat emptor.


oft , oft , oft

Recently I’ve been busy learning python. This is a short summary of what I’ve learned so far, mainly for accountability purposes.

I learned how to scrape websites using BeautifulSoup and that I should include a sleep(x) between requests so as not to hammer the site and get my IP banned.

I learned how to use NLTK to generate random sentences with a seed word using ngrams.

Couple of examples using seed words “Lady” and “Man”. Experimented with using bigrams, trigrams and quadgrams (sp?)

Lady of Chertsey , Who said , who loved to see little folks merry ; So he made them a Book , and with laughter they shook At the fun

Lady of Clare , Who said , oft , oft , oft , oft , oft , oft , oft , oft , oft , oft , oft , oft , oft , oft , oft , oft , oft

Man of the Isles , Whose face with red ochre . When they silenced his clamor . By smashing that Person of Chili . There was a Young Lady whose eyes Were unique as Angels kenn he fell , from SYRIAN ground , That nasty Old Person of Chili . There was dire , As Gods , and dazling Arms ,

Lady of Parma , Which drowned that Old Man of Chertsey , Who possessed a large Cow , but buns , That dolorous Man of the air could repose ; But they gave him awake they fed them on Snails , and weighed them in scales ; When she ceased to repine , That capricious Young Lady of Ischia , Whose toilette was None

Man by him seduc’t , but on the harp , for the ease you find To Noon he fell By FONTARABBIA . For Spirits when by the Vision led His eye survay ‘d the cold . There was an Old Man of Whitehaven . There was a Young Lady of Prague , His utmost power oppos’d In dubious Battel on the will

Lady whose chin Resembled the point of Crete , Whose toilette was far from complete ; He sat on whose nose Most birds of the Wrekin , Whose head was as the bush ! ” There was an Old Man with a gong . There was horribly vague ; But in handing his daughter , Which refreshed that virulent Bull

I learned that animals from different countries have different accents. And different countries have different sounds for sounds.

For example: In English, a knocking on the door is “knock knock” but in Polish the sound is heard as “puk puk”. In English, pigs go “oink oink” but in Korea pigs go “GGOOL GGOOL” (꿀꿀).

And that’s it.